[quote="markomalley, post:8, topic:331367"]
So if I understand correctly, you are going to be out of town one weekend during August on a really brief vacation. Let's leave your girlfriend out of this for the time being, because she is sort of irrelevant here (we'll discuss her later)
I'm calling this a vacation because it's different than having to go to a softball game in your town, or going fishing and wanting to leave early so that you can get them while they're biting. It's an occasional thing that you are doing. Personally, I don't see this as being any different than if you were to fly to the other side of the country for a week. Just a little bit shorter and a little bit quicker.
First of all, some people suggest you look up to see where there is a Mass nearby. That's a really good idea. Let me throw in a couple of more resources:
*]There is an Android app for it too. (though I haven't used it personally, it's in the Play Store)
*]There is also an iPhone app (and I don't have an iPhone, so I have no idea if it works or not)
Let us say that there is not a Mass within a reasonable distance (don't forget to include an Eastern Catholic Divine Liturgy in that formula). Let us also say that there is not an Eastern Orthodox Liturgy (which is a valid celebration of the Eucharist...and it's good if you can't reach a Mass/Liturgy celebrated by a church in communion with the Holy Father, even though they won't allow you to receive communion, chances are)
What is a reasonable distance/travel time? That is up to your conscience. Not up to me, not up to anybody else...including any other respondent on this thread. Think about this, though. The next time you go to confession...is it something that you would feel compelled to confess? If so, it's not reasonable.
God does not ask us to do the impossible.
As a note: I was stationed on a mountaintop communications site in Turkey for a year. We did not have a Catholic chaplain there...less than 40 of us on site. Our support base, located down a treacherous mountain road about 2-4 hours away, only had a Catholic chaplain stationed there for 3 months out of my tour. The only other alternative was either the Vatican embassy or the Spanish embassy.
Is 2-4 hours doable? Well...when it was 4 hours, that meant there was a snowstorm. So, no, not doable. When it was 2 hours, still, it was tough. Did I make it? Occasionally. I'd have to reserve a truck, schedule a Turkish security guard -- had to go through some pretty nasty areas to get to the support base, offer rides to anybody else who wanted to go down, park at the support base, get a cab to the Embassy, and hope to make it there all in time. And that is assuming I didn't just come off of a mid-shift or scheduled to work either day shift or swing shift that day.
Did I feel guilty when I didn't make it (which, in all candor, was most of the time)? No. Did I have reason to feel guilty? No. God doesn't ask us to do the impossible.
As for your girlfriend...all I'm going to say is don't put yourself in a near occasion of sin.
I don't think that your situation is at all comparable to the OP. You were not on the mountaintop by choice. You were not there on a vacation, or on an optional visit for pleasure. Often, your shift work precluded Mass attendance. You asked if 2-4 hours each way was doable--but the OP is only traveling 90 minutes maximum (and surely over less dangerous and better maintained roads).
God does not ask the impossible. On your mountaintop, regular Sunday Mass attendance was impossible. However, it seems to me that finding a Mass sometime between Saturday evening and Sunday evening, even though the OP will spend much of the weekend in a small town on an optional personal visit, is quite possible.
For the OP--you asked, what should I do? My recommendation: go to Mass. Find a Mass within a reasonable distance. Or, plan your visit so that you return to your city to attend a late Sunday Mass. If it is a "city," surely there are 5 p.m. or 7 p.m. Masses.
I guarantee you that most women admire commitment in a man. Your girlfriend will likely be quite attracted to your seriousness about your faith. If she's not, perhaps she's not the right woman for you.