Hello, I am the child of two people with a very complicated situation.
My mother was “married” by the Justice of the Peace, to a man before marrying my dad.
She wasn’t married in the Church. She got a divorce.
My dad was “married” in the Church to a “lesbian”.
They “divorced” and he got an annulment, but this annulment was obtained long after “marrying” my mother.
They were “married” by my father’s cousin, who was a protestant pastor (I think Baptist).
My mother was raised Catholic and has had her first Communion.
My dad was born into a Catholic family, never received his first communion, and was then raised halfway Baptist halfway Catholic, if that makes sense. He as an adult does not attend Baptist services and refused to get baptized in the Baptist “church”, and identifies as Catholic. He was baptized in the Catholic Church but no sacraments beyond that. He once went to a confessional despite this, so he had an invalid confession.
So, does anyone (perhaps a priest or cannon lawyer?) know if this means their marriage is invalid, or does it fall under any “natural” marriage clauses or something like that?
Their relationship is much better when they have “relations” and are bad if they don’t, so I really don’t want them to be fornicating when that is when their relationship is best. They’ve been “married” about twenty years.
My mother went to confession for the first time in years and gave a little bit of an overview of it, and the priest said she shouldn’t recieve any sacraments, but obviously that was in the confessional and probably wasn’t a detailed overview.
EDIT: I apologize if this is too much info, we are very open, and I don’t realize what’s socially appropriate sometimes.