Before I post in general detail, I have a question. Would it be possible to ask to have this thread deleted after the discussion has run it’s course?
I also want to preface this with saying that I understand that I need to speak to a priest or deacon about this but at the moment I have two jobs, one full time and the second is very close to full time. So I just don’t have much time at all.
Ok finally to the question :o
A few years ago I ‘realized’ that someone in my family was not validly married. I did not know the church’s requirements for marriage and what exactly would constitute a valid marriage until I studied Catholicism more closely.
It finally dawned on me that one person in my family had skipped a few things in her journey towards marriage. She had planned on being married in the Church but the plans changed and they didn’t even start Pre-Cana classes.
I figured out that she did not know these requirements but I kept my mouth shut about it. There are many reasons but one of the ones I feel guilty about, is because this marriage was just not going to work out. It was such a bad situation and the spouses where so fluxuating when listening to reason that I felt it was going to end.
It did end just last month. I can’t help but be relieved (due to many reasons). My family member revealed that she had been preparing herself to end it for the past two and a half years.
Maybe if I had told her the truth about her marriage it might not have changed a thing but it is also possible that it could’ve.
So my question is, how guilty am I?
This was a mixed faith marriage that between an undereducated non-Catholic and undereducated (on subjects of faith) secular Catholic.
I had always boldly pointed out my criticisms of how they handled or talked about certain things when I was younger. But after I moved away and learned about Catholicism I just couldn’t ‘correct’ them with the same fervor I used to have…especially about Catholicism.