Well, I just watched an absolutely beautiful movie on, believe it or not, Lifetime. Crazy place to find a good movie, right? Heh. Anyway, it was called Too Young to be a Father, and I started watching it expecting a bunch of the usual liberal nonsense, but I was pleasantly surprised to find one of the first - that I’ve seen - genuine looks at the boy’s side of a teen pregnancy situation, that ended in just about all of the right decisions.
I won’t go into detail about the movie, in case someone wants to look it up and watch it themselves.
The question I want to ask is if you wound up pregnant as a teenager or young unwed adult(girls, as well as those guys who fathered the hypothetical baby), would you jump on the idea of adoption? (I’m going to trust that everyone here would never have considered abortion. And if you would have, for the sake of this thread, let’s say that abortion didn’t exist.) Or would you keep the baby?
It seems to me that everyone is pushing adoption as the best alternative to abortion. “Teenagers can’t support a baby” everyone says. And okay, so maybe that’s true, but a teenager isn’t alone in the world, right? That teenager’s got a family, parents (or parent) and often many have siblings of working age as well. Many families are tightly knit with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins all within a short drive, some with them right down the street. Why is it families are close until a teen pregnancy comes along? Suddenly, that teenager is the only person on earth fending for herself/himself and her/his baby.
With the family involved, that kid’s life doesn’t have to ‘end’ with the baby as the world would like us to believe it does. Parents and grandparents can look after the baby while the new parent/parents finish school and get themselves ready to start their lives safely and securely. The baby doesn’t have to be whisked away and given to some other family in order for the kids to have good lives.
If it were me, and I’d found myself pregnant due to sin or the unfortunate event of a rape, I’d have clung to that baby. But then, I’ve known since I was thirteen (when a classmate of mine was raped and forced to give her baby up for adoption) that I wanted nothing more than to be a mother. It’s an easy choice for me. I’d like to hear what other people think they would’ve done (or, if there are any of you out there, what you did do when the situation arose).