[quote="distracted, post:8, topic:178496"]
thanks for sharing your story..
this may sound odd but what is the main reason you are not roman Catholic?? just wondering... not too familiar with byzantine Catholicism... maybe you could tell me the difference between you and roman catholics??
i am glad you got away from that guy... i barely escaped one or two of my exes. this one in particular was a true psycho...
Wow, that's a big question...:) There are quite a few differences--the liturgy, for one. What you call the Mass, we call Divine Liturgy. If you ever go to a Byzantine Divine Liturgy, you find that it is very much like Orthodox Divine Liturgy. We use the rubrics of the Divine Liturgy of St. John Chrysostom. We sing the entire thing, there is incense and bells every Liturgy, icons instead of statues, the priest faces the altar, rather than the people during it. We do not kneel, because in the Eastern Rites, kneeling is a sign of penance, not adoration. Of course, during the Pre-Sanctified Liturgy during Lent (Great Fast, as we call it) there is kneeling AND prostration.
The spirituality is different. Roman thinking has a great deal to do philosophy, ours is more of the mystical. When I think of St. John of the Cross, or St. Theresa of Avila, I sometimes wonder "why weren't they Byzantine?" Their mysticism closely resembles that of the Desert Fathers. However, there are strengths on both sides. I still read my Aquinas, pray my rosary, and like the nativity scenes. But I also pray the Chotki, reverence the icons, and keep the fasts--the great and the minor. What we share, however, is the same Pope. And you'd find that attendees of the Byzantine Rite Catholic Churches tend to be very devoted to the Holy Father, and very obedient to him.
I could go on for pages about the differences. I'll try to find some links for you, but a great place to look is nearby in the "Eastern Christianity" sub-forum here.
Why did I change? I wasn't leaving the Latin Rite, I was just "going East." It is, and always has been, what seemed to match my spirituality best. It's very hard to explain, but I get swept up in the Divine Liturgy in a way that I didn't in the Latin Rite. I get more of the sense that I am connected to that Eternal Liturgy in Heaven, that Eternal Sacrifice that spans the ages. There is nothing wrong with the Latin Rite, in my mind. I still don't mind attending a very reverent, respectful Latin Rite Mass, or going to an Adoration if invited. But my home is in my Byzantine parish.
Anyway, sorry to derail your thread. I'm sorry to hear that you had to deal with a psycho guy. My ex is not so much psycho, as just morally weak. He lied to me all those years because he was afraid to tell me the truth--until he was over 1000 miles away and in another relationship, that is. I try to keep the bitterness away, though it can be a battle, some days--even now, so many years later.