I have been dating my girlfriend since November. We met on ave maria singles and live about 2 hours apart. I have driven to Md to visit her many times but she has not yet came to Pa to see me. Every time I go to visit her we spend a considerable amount of time together and with her large family. We have been planning for her to come to visit me tomorrow, the 13th, to celebrate valentines day. For several weeks I have been planning to cook dinner, take her to Hershey's Chocolate World (which is nearby) and then rent a movie. I am very strapped for cash and can't afford much more. Thursday evening she told me that she would rather come up here and meet me somewhere else and spend the day together because it wouldn't be prudent to come to my apartment. This smelled fishy from the beginning but I told her that I just want her to feel comfortable and we will have fun no matter what. Last night she told me that her mother said it wouldn't be prudent for her to come to my apartment. My response was that her mother obviously doesn't trust me despite the fact that I've spent hundreds of dollars to drive there and spent hours with her family. She said that she and her mom just don't want anything to happen. This really doesn't make any sense though. If we are going to succumb to sexual temptation, that is MUCH more likely to happen as the relationship progresses and we grow closer. She said she didn't think of it that way.
Here's the thing, her mother is a very nice woman. She has been kind enough to feed me every time I have been at their home and has been nothing but nice to me. The thing is- she is very overbearing and bossy with her family. My girlfriend is a very mature 22 year old woman but she is very emotionally dependent on her family. She was home schooled and has never moved away from home, she commuted to college. This whole situation has me pretty upset. One big reason is that I simply don't have the money to spend an entire day out on the town. I can just see a future with this woman revolving around the wishes of her family (read as mother) and I know that just won't work. I guess I just needed to vent because this is really bothering me. I'm having my doubts about the relationship because of it. I appreciate any advice, even if you think I'm being a controlling jerk. Thanks.