I can’t verify the statistics used (one can quote or make up any statistic on the spot anyway) but I can speak to the feeling of being marginalized.
Firstly, I know what the official doctrine of the Church is - no one need scream it at me again. I’m not a theologian, although I was educated in a Catholic university, and I don’t personally feel/think that the theology against women’s ordination holds up – but that’s just my opinion.
Secondly, I am a cradle Catholic, reared in the Church long before Vatican II, so claims of my being “un-catechized” aren’t valid, either. I do happen to be one of the many thousands of parishoners who were fortunate enough to have been brought gently, with great sensitivity and care, through the post-VII changes – by extremely well-educated and informed, creative and loving priests. I was and remain happy that the breath of the Spirit was allowed to flow freely in the Church – for a few years, anyway.
Thirdly, although you may choose to characterize me as a “liberal,” “dissident” or “progressive” Catholic, I believe in all of the essentials of the Catholic faith, am in good standing at my (not liberal) parish, serve as I am able, attend daily mass, etc. I am 100% pro-life and have lived that commitment. I am not gay and do not support gay marriage, although I have empathy and compassion for people who struggle with that state.
I do, however, reserve the right to my own opinions, based on my well-informed conscience, intelligence and personal experience.
I feel it is unrealistic to claim that women are NOT marginalized in the RCC as long as they/we are denied the fullest expression of service, which is ordination. Decisions in the Church, from parish level to the Curia, are made only by (ordained) men, which automatically excludes 50% of the human race. If that isn’t the definition of “marginalization” then maybe we need a new definition. If that isn’t a human rights’ violation, then I don’t understand human rights.
I know all the arguments that are exploding out of your brains so you don’t need to reiterate them for the one millionth time. The fact is, women are not permitted to serve within the priesthood simply because we are women.
Throughout history, from before Jesus’ time until the 20th century, women were subordinate to men in every culture. It’s not surprising that the Church, which exists within cultures, not outside of them, maintained that role for women. It would have no doubt been unthinkable for a woman to minister to (gasp!) men through those centuries.
That subjugation is over in our own culture, and in many other cultures of the world… not all… but many. It is my fervent hope that Jesus’ church will end its discrimination in the next few hundred years – I’m not unrealistic to expect it in my lifetime or even my grandchildren’s lifetime – but – I do believe in the wisdom of the Holy Spirit and I do believe that at some point in the future women will be embraced as full participants in the life of the Church.
You have only to look at the apologies made by the current and previous Popes to recognize that “The Church” has not always acted according to her ideals. I’m hoping this will be one more apology made, with reparation, in say, 2300.
As to the OP’s question as to why women remain in the Church under these conditions, I can only speak for myself. This is Jesus’ Church and He is with us in the Eucharist. Through my father I was baptized into this Church and I choose to remain, even though I’m effectively a second-class citizen.