A Woman's Account: "Proud To Be a Prude."

In this account of her lifestyle in this matter, she tells of how she is not ashamed at not looking at sex scenes at the movies.
see catholicnerdwriter.blogspot.com/2011/11/proud-to-be-prude.html

I don’t know. Doesn’t “prude” mean you are prudent? And isn’t prudence one of the cardinal virtues? If so, why on Earth would we be ashamed?

Good question!

I’ve no idea where the word “prude” originated.

ICXC NIKA

I’d be more worried about being a prig than a prude.

Here’s the etymology of “prude”, by the by.

It is an appropriate response to immorality in the media, especially TV and movies which treat simulated sex, partial nudity and unmarried sex as average/normal/good. What’s the big deal? Our souls. We need to guard our eyes and ears from profane and immoral images and words.

From the Catechism:

"II. THE BATTLE FOR PURITY

"2520 Baptism confers on its recipient the grace of purification from all sins. But the baptized must continue to struggle against concupiscence of the flesh and disordered desires. With God’s grace he will prevail

  • by the virtue and gift of chastity, for chastity lets us love with upright and undivided heart;

  • by purity of intention which consists in seeking the true end of man: with simplicity of vision, the baptized person seeks to find and to fulfill God’s will in everything;313

  • by purity of vision, external and internal; by discipline of feelings and imagination; by refusing all complicity in impure thoughts that incline us to turn aside from the path of God’s commandments: “Appearance arouses yearning in fools”;314

  • by prayer:

    I thought that continence arose from one’s own powers, which I did not recognize in myself. I was foolish enough not to know . . . that no one can be continent unless you grant it. For you would surely have granted it if my inner groaning had reached your ears and I with firm faith had cast my cares on you.315

"2521 Purity requires modesty, an integral part of temperance. Modesty protects the intimate center of the person. It means refusing to unveil what should remain hidden. It is ordered to chastity to whose sensitivity it bears witness. It guides how one looks at others and behaves toward them in conformity with the dignity of persons and their solidarity.

"2522 Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.

"2523 There is a modesty of the feelings as well as of the body. It protests, for example, against the voyeuristic explorations of the human body in certain advertisements, or against the solicitations of certain media that go too far in the exhibition of intimate things. Modesty inspires a way of life which makes it possible to resist the allurements of fashion and the pressures of prevailing ideologies.

"2524 The forms taken by modesty vary from one culture to another. Everywhere, however, modesty exists as an intuition of the spiritual dignity proper to man. It is born with the awakening consciousness of being a subject. Teaching modesty to children and adolescents means awakening in them respect for the human person.

"2525 Christian purity requires a purification of the social climate. It requires of the communications media that their presentations show concern for respect and restraint. Purity of heart brings freedom from widespread eroticism and avoids entertainment inclined to voyeurism and illusion.

"2526 So called moral permissiveness rests on an erroneous conception of human freedom; the necessary precondition for the development of true freedom is to let oneself be educated in the moral law. Those in charge of education can reasonably be expected to give young people instruction respectful of the truth, the qualities of the heart, and the moral and spiritual dignity of man.

"2527 "The Good News of Christ continually renews the life and culture of fallen man; it combats and removes the error and evil which flow from the ever-present attraction of sin. It never ceases to purify and elevate the morality of peoples. It takes the spiritual qualities and endowments of every age and nation, and with supernatural riches it causes them to blossom, as it were, from within; it fortifies, completes, and restores them in Christ."316

We cannot afford to be indifferent to media that models immorality or to words and even types of dress that are scandalous.

Proud to be a prude (I was called that a few days ago).

Ed

I do the same exact thing, although I usually feel foolish. However, I’m going to do it more from now on.

May God bless you abundantly and forever! :slight_smile:

I have been called a prude too.

I just do not see the value of sex being seen as a spectator sport.

Normalizing immoral sexual behavior has occurred on TV, little by little, over the last 40 years. There are people who want you to like what they like. To live how they live. It was a gradual process that slowly poisoned us, and it took years. First, it was a little bad, then a little more and a little more. Movies went at a faster pace.

Why, today, do I need to see an attractive actress in bed engaging in simulated sex with a lot of skin showing? Anybody?

As a professional editor who has seen tons of manuscripts, gratuitous sex scenes and profanity are immediately eliminated in the manuscripts we accept. I either cross things out or replace certain words with other words or just cut a line. I am sick and tired of the debasement I’m seeing. But, it’s like: “Hey. What’s the big deal?”

Too many young people are so disconnected from what true male-female relationships should be, that even seeing an unmarried couple laying in bed just talking to each other, much less having sex, does not cross their minds as bad, wrong or immoral. The actors are portraying the worst role models. And too many think there’s nothing wrong. It doesn’t even register that such scenes are designed to make you accept or like a certain lifestyle.

That’s got to end.

Ed

While I don’t disagree with her point, for the most part, nor do I disagree with those made by the previous posters, I do take issue with her use of the word “prude,” which bears a context that implies an unhealthy shame or fear of the goodness of the body. Pope St. John Paul II wrote in Love and Responsibility (ok, it was Karol Wojtyla who wrote it, but I digress) that prudishness was the opposite and almost equally undesirable extreme regarding human sexuality as is shamelessness. Christopher West and Gregory Popcak wrote extensively on the dangers of prudishness, too.

Again, I don’t disagree with the point she’s making, but I also contend that language is incredibly important; the words we choose to use matter. As such, “prude” isn’t a title in which we should take pride. Modest, chaste, and, most importantly, redeemed views of the body and sexuality are not prude.

ITA - you articulated well what I was thinking.

Interesting thought, but elaborate explanations don’t sit well with a people that expect/have been conditioned to do a google search to get them a tiny fragment of the big picture in under .05 seconds. Western society has been taught to be impatient. It’s all quick and brief. To a native African: “Americans have watches but they have no time. We don’t have watches but we do have time.”

In other words, the words we choose to use matter but not when we are conditioned to take in everything in brief, satisfying bits, instead of really taking the time to choose our words. … much less examine an issue in sufficient detail.

Take prude. For too many, it doesn’t exist on their very narrow spectrum of lifestyle choices. If you really want to get them laughing, start talking about being a virgin until you’re married.

If you want to say something incredibly important, it seems that you must mention taking away one of the sacred secular cows. Then, eloquent words begin to flow. Very skillfully chosen words.

In this context, i.e. “I just do not see the value of sex being seen as a spectator sport.”

Ed

I’m sorry you took issue with my use of word but I promise I used it intentionally for the reason I’m now going to explain. I used the word according to how it is used today in our hypersexualized secular world. I used the word because, yes, people most often use it as a way to shame those of us who prefer not to see sex scenes or discuss topics of that nature. It’s the term most often used (at least in my case), when others have issue with my not wanting to see, hear, or read anything that would land me in the confessional. As for “pride” in using that word is my way of saying that I am not ashamed of being thought of as someone who values chastity and prudence. As I wrote in the blog post, a professor called me that in class to make me feel ashamed but I didn’t. I’m not ashamed of my actions.

Actually, the sex acted out in movies is just disgusting. The moaning and shaking of the bed…or car, even nastier. It’s overrated. There’s nothing great about it. Nothing at all.

I completely agree with her and we make a conscious effort to avoid sexual content and nudity.

In this age, they’re “Proud To Be A Crude

I agree with you about movies, they are trying to make casual sex very normal and acceptable, and they are succeeding.

But when it comes to network and even basic cable tv, (Ive said this before), the FCC is STILL very strict on curse words, and especially nudity, even Saturday Night Live, when someone blurts out the unexpected ‘F’ word, (and keep in mind this is after midnight tv/ after hours), they are STILL fined for it.

Its strange in these times we live, there is no one suggesting the FCC to drop all their ‘nonsense’ censoring tv, it just seems to me, hollywood, network and cable producers, the viewing public, would not agree with this anymore, and fight to have to have laws changed.

Can you think of why no one has attempted this? Especially when considering they do want to promote these types of immorality more these days?

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