I don’t know because it’s never happened to me, but 2 friends of mine had an abortion (in Britain) and DID have some councelling, but it was at the ‘Mary Stopes’ and very much confirming them into ‘yes, you’re doing the sensible thing’ and basically helping them come to that ecision that it really was for the best, all the after-councelling was also geared towards ‘coming to terms with what was the sensible decision’…I think one of them had 5 sessions with a therapist after all that as well…So yes, there IS councelling…but they really try to steer you INTO the direction of the abortion.
Mind you, same with adoption here in Britain: I knew one girl when I had my second daughter who was practically co-erced into giving up her son, ‘Social Services’ were visiting with the paper-work the day after he was born and I overheard them saying ‘It’s all for the best, you’re giving him the best startt in life, you’re so brave…’ all to help her give up her child…I found it quite distressing, she took a ton of pictures of him and held him for hours, she really felt she ‘had no choice but to give him up’…but it was obvious she really didn’t want to, she put on a brave face to ‘Social Services’ and the adoption people though.
So…I think on both sides the councelling could be better! Ideally no woman should EVER feel like she is ‘doing it for the child’, whether aborting it or giving it up for adoption…For me it’s a very emoionally charged subject: in an ideal world every child should be raised by the person who gave birth to it…in an ideal world…Because just like people regret abortions, people also often regret giving their child up for adoption. At least with adoption you’d know your child is alive in the world, but for some that may actually be more difficult …‘What is my child doing today…’ can be harder than ‘My child died…long ago…’
It’s a very complicated subject, I often wonder if either option is in ‘the best interest of the child’…no matter how loving the adoptive parents may turn out to be, there’s a mother out there deprived of her child.
I’m not saying this as a ‘negative’ against you, but…it’s just how I feel…being a mom myself, under difficult circumstances, I just can’t imagine ‘not’ having them right here with me:shrug: