I need to have some advice concerning a church division. Now, in my parish, there are many different customs. I organize events in order to create a community spirit. Now, it’s not always easy to gather people for events, but I manage to do it for the events that I organize. I, like others, notice church divisions, that is, people who group themselves and don’t mingle with others. I’ve seen this in my parish often. I’m talking here about a certain group of people who are the same culturally and who all do the same work in general. They do have things in common. However,when they come to Mass, they do the readings and after Mass, they do not socialize with other people outside of their click. They take pictures of each other and they go to activities with each other. Unless I insist, they will not socialize with me or with other people who I know. They don’t come our way at all. Some people have spoken about this with me. In other words, some people have noticed how “clicky” this particular group is. When we go out for coffee and food, this group is never available. They tell me that they are busy. I have nothing bad to say about busy lives. I myself am busy and cannot socialize and entertain people every Sunday. However, I do join others for coffee on a part-time basis, so that I can feel part of the family. My concerns can be summarized like this:
What does it mean when people come to Mass, do their readings and don’t socialize with parish members after Mass? People notice that this group shuts itself from other customs or people. They talk with each other, but ignore others. They create division in the church to a certain degree. What can I or others do to integrate them more in our coffee outings? I have ideas already, but more can be helpful. What can we do to reach out to this group and make the church a unified setting and not a divided one?