In my church again, there are different customs. If one is not careful, she/he can get a culture shock. This is not a rational thing. It's hard to explain. One has to experience it to understand what it is. Now, I have a good priest who is from another country, but whose faith and values are compatible with mine. I find his lectures just great and I get spiritually uplifted after every Mass that he gives. He's that good! Now, I don't feel the need to search another priest up and have more guidance than the one I'm getting currently in my Mass. My priest is not the only priest giving the Mass. He has an assistant. The assistant decided just recently...he is new here.....to meet with me and other volunteers of the chuch. This assistant who has "tasks" in the church does not lead the Mass. The Foreign priest leads the Mass and he is his assistant. Anyhow, he decided to have all the volunteers meet once a month at a coffee shop. We would pray and talk about....who knows? That hasn't been cleared up yet. I had to ask him to invite the Foreign priest, the main priest, to these meetings. These meetings will be mainly praying I believe. In the past, the volunteers of the Mass (the other custom) didn't go out of their way to treat us Foreigners warmly. It has been hard and somewhat "brutal" at times to communicate with them. I have had to stand up for myself and for the Foreign community from time to time. Foreigners do their thing in the Mass and keep their distance when other volunteers (from another custom) mistreats them. We haven't been "spoiled" to say the least.
Now, we're invited to join this "cliquy" group of volunteers and it will be guided by this new assistant (priest). Just today, there were people in this group who were laughing at me without any respect for my feelings or customs. How should I conduct myself in a group like this where we have to meet once a month to pray together and to be guided by another priest,but the one we so much like? It's hard to pray with people who don't respect you and show no "heart". They might not know how I feel....How would you conduct yourself after a meeting in which your face makes them laugh and your feelings get hurt? How long would you endure this in a prayer group once a month? I find this to be disgusting and hypocritical, but I'm not sure how to go about doing the least possible in order to avoid humiliation.
Can you please give my your best advice? Do I sit in this prayer meeting every month to endure humiliation? Do I have to be at their mercy? Can I skip some times?