[LEFT]"Now concerning the thing whereof you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. But for fear of fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render the debt to his wife, and the wife also in like manner to the husband. **The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband. And in like manner the husband also hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud not one another, except, perhaps, by consent, for a time, that you may give yourselves to prayer; and return together again, lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency.
But I speak this by indulgence, not by commandment. For I would that all men were even as myself: but every one hath his proper gift from God; one after this manner, and another after that. But I say to the unmarried, and to the widows: It is good for them if they so continue, even as I. But if they do not contain themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be burnt." 1 Corinthians 7:1-9
I think Saint Paul urges a very balanced consideration of the place of sexual relations in marriage. I believe, just as he did, that it is probably best for courting couples with high sex drives to do everything in their power to thoroughly prepare themselves for marriage in a timely manner. I’m glad my wife and I did.
Couples will discover, perhaps even after the first time, that everything that Holy Mother Church teaches us about sex is TRUE. Sex is a profound act, a total gift of self–spiritually, emotionally, and physically. The burning that they felt before their marriage will (with the proper disposition) be transformed into a growing, active love for one another, **a love that does not constantly manifest itself in a sexual manner!
**I suppose it sounds like I’m saying that you have to have sex in order to not have sex. That’s not what I’m getting at. If a couple is open to Him, God will transform those pre-marital sexual urges into a beautiful, flowering relationship. And that most certainly is better than risking giving in to temptation.