My fiance and I are getting married in a couple months and are committed to using NFP in our marriage. We want to have kids fairly soon but he is still looking for work where I live and we’re not sure a long term job will come through before the wedding. He’s also working on his master’s degree, but that by itself probably wouldn’t keep us from trying for kids if he had a good job to support us. In theory we might be able to afford to have a baby on what I make, but we really don’t want me to be the main source of income and have to leave the baby in childcare while I work.
Right now it’s looking like our wedding/honeymoon might fall in the middle of my phase 2 fertility (although I know this is not completely predictable and could very well change, especially with stress levels right before the wedding). I know ultimately the decision whether to abstain from the marital embrace is something we have to decide prayerfully together, but I’m interested in the perspective of people who have been here before.
In a situation like this, did you play it safe and abstain from relations or trust that since God is the giver of life, He wouldn’t give you a baby unless He has a plan to take care of you?