Dear Friends on the forums,
Is it appropriate for some people to abstain in general from parties and frivolity to focus on their calling, if they sense that our Heavenly Father is personally pulling them away from worldly celebrations to help others almost exclusively?
My feeling is that there is nothing at all wrong for most people to enjoy dances, parish parties, all kinds of celebrations and humor. Our dear Lord Jesus was often found in the midst of all kinds of celebrations. He said that that was a good thing, “while the Bridegroom is here.”
But is it appropriate to join in these activities, when one feels very strongly that the suffering in the world calls to them keenly, that our Dear Christ Jesus whispers in our heart not to celebrate while so many are in distress?
Is is necessarily a matter of merely being overly scrupulous to feel this way? Or do you know some examples of modern -day laypersons who have chosen to quietly work with our brethren who are suffering, and who feel a deep connection with them, and therefore feel that( other than Holy Days and religious celebrations and the Mass,) that they, while not judging others, are not called to join in “worldly” entertainments, parties and things that are frivolous?
I have for a long time found that for me, seeing so much suffering first hand and also seeing so much suffering in the world, that I have no heart for attending parties or celebrating worldly things. I prefer to work within my small ministry, and to refrain from frivolity. My real joy comes from finding ways to help others, because people in need are truly Christ coming to us! “The Joy of the Lord is my strength” might mean a different kind of joy for one person and a different path for another. Do you agree?
I do not go around sulking or moping at all, and have a joyful spirit of good will, which I think is different from being “humorous,” or cracking jokes to lighten everything in that way.
Isn’t “good will” really giving others hope, helping them help themselves and sometimes immediate charity, helping in emergencies? Mother Teresa always said how wonderful it is to smile at people and give them hope. That is my hope! I totally agree with her on this and act accordingly, and would never judge someone else if they enjoy all these other added things life offers. It just seems that each person has a unique calling.
An Example: It seems to me that if we knew a friend who had just suffered a death in the family or something tragic, that no one would expect that person to be “jovial.” So if we really feel that all the world is our real family, how can we celebrate while so many are hurting so desperately?
May God our Heavenly Father accept my thanks for all the friends who have been so kind to me on these forums! Thoughts and wisdom are most welcome!