I’m in RCIA. I wrote the priest and said I wanted to go to confession, but I wasn’t sure when it would be allowed and asked advice for when I can go. He then replied and said we should meet.
I go to meet him, and he starts asking me general questions about my background. Then I realize this is turning into a confession. He tells me it is confidential.
So, I wasn’t really prepared. I thought it might happen, but I didn’t think to ask. I’m very shy and nervous. I didn’t say any of the words you are supposed to say, and I didn’t get a chance to talk about any other sins. He told me what he wanted me to do to make amends and then all of a sudden his hand was on my head saying the words of absolution.
But backing up, after I confess the thing that was most awful, he asks me if I did this to anybody else. I got caught off guard. I answered no which I knew wasn’t true. I thought I only had to tell him about things that happened after my baptism. I did this thing to somebody else before my baptism. I would have told him if it had happened after my baptism. I feel so dumb now.
So now I’m really worried that I committed sacrilege and that I have to reconfess everything again. I didn’t feel any different after the confession. I wasn’t trying to lie, but I did. It was happening so fast, and I didn’t think to ask him if I had to talk about previously forgiven sins. I would have told him about it if I had thought to ask that question, and if he had said yes. I just didn’t know what to do, and everything was just happening all at once.
Anyway, so was this confession totally null and void because of the lie? Do I have to reconfess everything? Trying to be Catholic is hard.