There is no different category of bullying that belongs to “gay” bullying. What all bullying is, is exploitation, in which the exploiter uses others to make himself or herself feel less inadequate and project their own failings – and anger about their own shortcomings – onto others. The source of bullying is not limited to one gender or the other – nor, will I add, to any age group. Bullies come in all ages and in both genders. The schoolyard/classroom version is only one of many categories. There are all kinds of environments – including office settings with little oversight – in which adult bullies reign and thrive. Like school bullies, they feel so insecure about their own power-base that they create an artificial air of power by which they dominate and oppress, often threatening their victims overtly or by implication with dire consequences for not submitting to their power. People who feel truly competent in their personal and social niche have no need to resort to something as demeaning to the human person as bullying. Bullying is a reflection of insecurity, or the prospect of real or imagined insecurity. It is a lowering of self and others to the “laws of the jungle” in which brute power (dominance) is the operative factor.
Bullies create enormous evil, wherever they are allowed to operate: they poison the environment and cause injustice. Their prime victims are those whom they perceive as most vulnerable, which would include anyone who is socially vulnerable, such as a member of a minority group of any kind, and such as a person who is not “armed” emotionally (someone who is kind and non-aggressive, who has no taste for combat). They project their vulnerabilities onto conveniently vulnerable victims.
As evidenced in spousal abuse, bullies will continue to exploit unless forcefully stopped. The victim often cannot leave the environment (or if he or she can, the bully will merely find another victim). Gays are most often simply a target of convenience, and nothing else. They are not a “special category.” Nevertheless (again) the evil of allowing bullying to become an unaddressed example mandates that authorities with courage and commitment take charge. That is not solved by creating a special category but by adults taking responsibliity for unacceptable abuses by those underneath their own authority.
Bullies are impervious to words and regulations (supposedly “stiffer” ones against “gay” bullying). Words and regulations are a cop-out on the part of authority figures. Only severe and practical actions and consequences, including physical removal, will restrain bullies. As an adult currently being bullied by another adult, and with no recourse on my part to any higher authority figure, I know exactly what the dynamic is.