I searched but couldn’t find a similar thread, but here’s my problem. My adult (20 y/o) daughter has announced that she is being born again and will be baptized into another church in January.
For background, both my husband and I are cradle Catholics. My parents were extremely devout and so am I. My husband’s father is a devout convert, his mother and her parents are “fallen away”. So his faith is a little more abstract than mine. We have also had serious financial and marital issues over the years. We barely fit into our small apt with 5 kids. Our daughter has struggled greatly, she moved out at 18 and lives with a friend’s parents. At age 16 she made a big scene during mass and jumped up and loudly stated that she can’t participate in something she doesn’t believe in then ran out. I have tried my best to be a good Catholic parent, with my husband’s lukewarm and passive assistance.
She brought a posse of friends with her to announce to me that she will be baptized into this other church, called “Legacy”. It’s non-denominational, more like what I call “happy Christians”. When I politely questioned them about different aspects of their church, I found out my daughter doesn’t even believe that Catholics are Christians. She also said that having Communion every day demoralizes it and repeated “overuse” of the miracle takes away from it’s divinity. She also mistakenly believes that their celebration of Communion actually becomes the Body and Blood. I have since talked to her and corrected her gently but other issues I don’t want to get into a battle with her and completely turn her against the True Church.
At this point she seems very fragile and naive but the pull of her friends and the “exciting” community of Legacy are hard to compete with. She’s reading their bible and told me the Catholic bible is full of extra phrases and nonsense.
I’m totally crushed. My husband is supportive of her and says “Well at least she’s going to church and believes in Jesus”. What can I do? I feel guilty because of my own past sins and lack of stability for her. What about the actual baptism itself? Is it a mortal sin that cannot be erased? Will she still always be a Catholic despite her new lifestyle choice? I’m praying but this is almost to much to bear.