[quote=tsol]I have committed an unforgiveable sin - adultery!
The only unforgivable sin is final despair.
I was divorced few years ago and have been living with my son since then. About eight mths ago, I met my first boyfriend.
He is a married man. By then he was telling me that he wanted to divorce his wife and leave his family.
I knew it was very wrong of me to start a relationship with him. !
No disagreement here, you were tempted and you fell, there but for the grace of God go I
His mom and sis has been calling me told me that never to leave him in a lurch (I was determined to leave him then) and etc…
They put pressure on you to continue in sin and will have to answer for that, BUT you were weak and listened to them. That’s your share
Anyway, I’m now in my 17 weeks of pregnancy. Weeks go we had a talk and I told him that the child is innocent, he has to be responsible towards the child. He agreed that he will be responsible and will help to raise the child. A week later, he just disappeared. Although he can be contactable via mobile but he simply refused to ans my call and nothing from him since then.
Both of us are from the same parish (so is his family and relatives).
He will be answerable to God for the life of his child. What he has done has compounded his culpability.
I lost my faith since then. Yes, indeed I committed an unforgiveable sin but I do not want to run away from it to terminate the pregnancy as the child is innocent and it’s time that I have to answer for my mistake.
My nephew went out in the bush after his marriage broke up and through a rope over a branch. Before he could put the noose around his neck, as two of his cousins have done recently, he said to himself…“No, I am stronger than that.”
YOU are stronger than that. You have made a mistake, but so have countless others before you. It is not how many times we fall that count in the final tally, it is how many times we get up, pick up our Cross and go on.
I felt so helpless as I have lost my job at the same time and have no one to turn to.
Never underestimate the sheer nastiness of Satan who hungers for your immortal soul
I have stop going to the parish for masses since then but I really wanted to go back to church again but can I?
You are so not going to let him win, are you?
Can god and the church accepted me for what I have done?
Jesus could have forgiven Judas if he had repented and asked for forgiveness. Is what you have done worse than betraying God made Man to the executioners? NO!!!
I do not know how to face the consequences if we were to run into each other in the church. Can someone please help and adv what shall I do? Shall I go to another parish instead but I really do not want to be a coward and run away from it for the rest of my life.
My heart goes out to you.
Turn to St Joseph and ask for his assistance. He thought Mary was guilty of adultery but didn’t want to cause her public humiliation, scorn and stoning. He was the perfect human father, which you will need for both your children.
Go to Confession. Seek counsel from your priest as to how to face up to this. Yes, some people will judge you harshly, those who are lacking in charity. They are the modern-day equivalents of the Pharisees Jesus had to deal with. When you do meet them, please pray for their conversion and salvation, reflecting on God’s Divine Mercy which He will extend to you.
All of us will have to face His Justice if we don’t throw ourselves on His Mercy.
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