Really Messed Up:
As All Hers said, our Brothers and Sisters have given you good and Godly advice. It’s up to you to follow it. I was in your situation once, except I was in the position of your man friend. I completely and utterly destroyed my marriage, along with I don’t know how many other lives, doing what this man is doing right now. The two of you may think that you won’t commit adultery, but I can almost guarantee that you will, because human nature and human need are just too strong, esp. if you feel you’re getting something from him you’re not getting from your husband.
The ONLY WAY to prevent more damage is to split, to break, to not see him. He obviously is more like I was than I would like to see, so you have to be the grown up here. This isn’t going to feel good at all, but it’s what you have to do, if you don’t want any more damage to be done than has been already done.
You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of God. What do you think the Scriptures mean when they say that the spirit God has placed within us is filled with envy? But he gives us even more grace to stand against such evil desires. As the Scriptures say,[INDENT]“God opposes the proud
but favors the humble.”
So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.
Look here, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. What you ought to say is, “If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” Otherwise you are boasting about your own plans, and all such boasting is evil. Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.
[/FONT]James 4:4-10, 13-17 NLT
[/INDENT][FONT=Georgia]The Lord has given us Himself to eat, which is all sweetness and all delight. The Lord has given us Himself, and He has promised that He will give us, and you, those feelings of ecstasy forever. Fall in love with the Lord, and the Lord will help you to fall in love with your husband again, and you won’t need this man.
We’re in a Spiritual War, and we need you to be in the “Line of Cambat” not Lost as a casualty somewhere along the “Line of March”. The ONLY ONE who wants you with theat man is the adversary of the brethren and of the People of God and of the People of Israel, the Devil, the Father of Lies, and he has ONLY ONE destination in mind for your soul and that of your friend. Thank God I escaped from his clutches. You can too. You know what to do…
You Brother and Servant in Christ, Michael