My father divorced my mother 30 some years ago and is now seeking to come back into the Catholic Church.
After the divorce,he then married his current wife in a civil service. Both my father and his current wife need to have an annulment in order to have their marriage blessed to come back into communion with the Church.
My problem with all of this is that the current wife is the person who my father committed adultry with when he was still married to my mother. Though my parent’s marriage may not have been good at that point (I can’t know that) there were no signs that it was in real trouble until my mother became aware that my father was having an affair and that he was leaving her. It is my understanding,(and I was 15 when it happened so I remember it pretty well) that my father left my mother for this woman.
This woman wants to be a practicing Catholic as well and has been questioning me about annulments in general. In the discussion, she told me that if it wasn’t her(meaning he would have broke up his marriage with any woman) it would have been someone else. That doesn’t sound too repentful to me.
Can their marriage be blessed when unrepented adultry is a factor?
Can a the first marriage be annulled when adultry was the cause?