I’m a fairly new convert (some seven months and counting) and my wife is in RCIA. Our son (born nine weeks premie) just got to come home last Friday. I tried to have him Baptised the day he was born, but the chaplain advised us that since he was stable, it might be better to wait for our parish; and besides, they were on call 24/7 if things got worse.
So I feel pretty urgent about getting him baptised now that he’s come home. He’s five weeks old now. I don’t know if I’m just impatient or rushing things too much or what–one deacon really seemed to think so. My associate pastor waived the baptism class requirement for us, so we’re all set to go for this Sunday.
Here’s our slight dilemma: we’ve never been to an infant baptism before, so we don’t know how important it is to have a get-together afterward, or how big that get-together ought to be. We live in a pretty tiny apartment, so we’d either have to limit our guest list pretty severely or go to a restaurant. How many people do you usually invite to a baptism? Is it like a Tupperware party, where people hope they aren’t invited, or like a wedding, where the relatives of your relatives get offended if they aren’t on the list?
However, if I put the baptism off a few weeks (or more), we can have a decent baptism party. What do you think? Is it worth putting off his baptism three weeks toa month and a half? Or should we just make do with a few friends coming over? One friend told us not to worry, we could put it off until he was two if we wanted to. How urgent is baptism for a healthy baby?