**God **did not send you a man to commit adultery with. That much I am certain of.
He says he *knows *it’s adultery but is willing to do it because God would want him to be happy? Can I just say: BARF. Capital B. That is not God. That is SELF delusion.
Look, I was a 25 year old woman when I converted to the Catholic faith. I decided day one that I would only date Catholics because I knew the Church held the fullness of truth and I did not want a house divided. I did not want to raise children in a mixed faith household. I did not want fights and arguments over religions or who attends church where and when. I wanted a man to pray with me, the Rosary. I wanted a man to go with me to Mass. I wanted a man who loved God and the Church as much as me.
Did God slap one down on my porch the next day? No. For 13 years I was a faithful Catholic woman who couldn’t seem to meet a decent Catholic man. Not ONCE did I ever waiver in my decision to only date Catholic men.
And now I have the most wonderful Catholic husband EVER.
Honey, it’s **always **your choice. You can choose to be faithful to God and wait for the right person to come into your life. Or you can go on for 14 posts on here about how this guy is the right guy. However, if he were ACTUALLY the right guy, you wouldn’t need **one **post let alone 4 to tell us all the problems and then a bunch more telling us we really don’t understand or we’d agree with you that there has to be a way, that ‘God’ wouldn’t do this to you.
YOU are doing this to you.
Not warm and fuzzy, but the truth.
He is not free to marry. He is already married. Unfair that she left? Yes. Free to marry someone else? No.
Regarding nullity-- it’s not something someone “gets.” The Church examines evidence and if there is evidence of invalidity, they will make a declaration. BUT, the marriage might well be valid and then he would be unable to marry until his wife is no longer living.
You went in eyes wide shut. Now, open your eyes and see the reality: you have made these choices all along the way until you are so “in love” that you cannot see that this is a bad situation and it will tear you apart if you keep heading down this road.
“But he’s my best friend.” The man you marry will be your best friend. This man will fade away. How do I know? I was you when I was in my 20s. I had several very serious boyfriends who I thought were my best friends and who I could not live without. And I haven’t seen or talked to them in 15 years. And I didn’t die of a broken heart. I screwed my head on straight and put God first in my life. And things go a LOT better.