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I wanted to know what Catholic girls are looking for in guys and how I as a Catholic man can approach them, get to know them, and get going on dating? I'm lonely and I really do want a holy companion (and something that can turn into something more); I do have that desire for intimacy (in a good way) and the desire to share myself with another. I really do want to meet great Catholic women and I'm hoping to attend something next month that will hopefully allow me to get into contact with these women.
My advice is to approach her in the mindset of making a new friend. If you start talking to a girl in the mindset of getting into a romantic relationship then you'll find yourself not being yourself. You'll be saying certain things and acting in a special way just to "get with" her because you like the gushy feelings you have when you're interacting with her. That is self-interest, not interest in the other person.
Unless you're willing to be with her just because she's a good and interesting person then you need to examine your motives. This also makes things much simpler because you'll reveal yourself for who you are from the first time you meet, instead of a guy who just wants a girlfriend. You have to ask yourself the question: "Am I a good friend to this person, or is she just a source of good feelings for me?"
The fact that you say that you are lonely hints that you may be just looking for a way to fill a void. A girl doesn't want to be a means to an end. She is supposed to be the end. What do you have to offer her? Are you a good person? If interacting with her stops giving you the feeling of infatuation or she doesn't want the romantic aspect of the relationship to continue, would you still be her friend? Do you need to be dating the girl to "share yourself" with her?
I don't mean to be judgmental. These are just things you should consider. What I'm saying may sound like some unrealistic altruistic ideal, but I think it's what any Christian relationship is supposed to be about.