Advice from anyone is welcome, of course, but I would especially appreciate hearing from Grandmothers. I created a prayer request about this a few days ago, but I also need some actionable advice.
My relationship with my mother-in-law is pretty strained and that has mostly happened since the arrival of my baby girl. My daughter is 8 months old now and I would like to repair things and prevent it from getting worse. Even simple things, like hearing my mother-in-law refer to my daughter as “her baby,” lead me to want to cry. Obviously, holding a grudge against her is not going to help my soul and it is certainly not going to help my marriage. How do I work on myself? I admit that I have an irrational fear that my daughter will grow up loving my mother-in-law more than me. How do I keep from myself from feeling like I need to compete with my mother-in-law?
My mother-in-law wholeheartedly loves my daughter (and my husband, of course) so this is not a case where my daughter would be better off without her around.
If you are a grandma, do you have any wise words that can help me see things from my mother-in-law’s point of view? I would very much like to have a loving relationship (or at least a happy one) with her.