My husband and I are due to have our first baby any day now, and we are having trouble agreeing on godparents. We both want to pick someone who will be a good example of the faith for our child.
In my family, godparents have always been family members. Most of my family members are practicing Catholics, and even quite involved in their parishes, however, I would also say that they are “cafeteria catholics” and some of them are quite vocal about what they disagree on. Eg: All of them believe that birth control is okay, at least one has been sterilized, most don’t see confession as necessary.
My husband’s side is mostly non-Catholic, and he would rather we choose someone from among our friends, who we know are more orthodox.
Because my family are all practicing Catholics (and even leaders in their parishes), I would feel kind of like a snob in passing them up my for someone more Catholic. I am worried about offending my family over this, and I am also worried that we would be more likely to lose touch with friends in the future, and they would be less involved in our child’s life.
So the basic question is: do we pick a practicing “cafeteria” catholic from the family who will be an okay but not terrific example of the faith, or do we pick someone who is more in line with the church’s teaching, and risk losing touch, and maybe causing family stress?