Hi all I’m new to the forums and seeking some advice to a matter that has been bothering me for a while now. I’m 31 and take my relationship with our Lord very seriously. I recently joined the Catholic church last year. I go to confession twice a month and attend mass on Sundays and during the week when I can.
I have had a desire for the vocation of marriage since I was small, and for the last five or six years I’ve also been experiencing a strong desire for children.
As many of you have who are male and love the Lord and remain as of yet unmarried have probably experienced the first thing out of many peoples mouths that I hear is, “Why don’t you become a priest.” I have one brother and I am the oldest male in my family. Today while having breakfast with the Priest of our parish my dad, not for the first time, has told everyone that I’m going to be a priest. Needless to say I find this extremely distressing.
I know that often God tells us his will through those around us. I want to find a wonderful women who loves God and I can build a family with, but all this talk from others especially my father, suggesting, or telling me to go into the priesthood is not only grating but making me question whether my desire for marriage is even correct. The priesthood is a noble calling and I greatly respect it but I can’t seem to find a desire as deep in me as that for marriage.
What advice do you all have for someone of my age who can’t seem to find the right mate, and has family and friends constantly bringing up the priesthood all the time? I worry that maybe I’m missing the boat with God and maybe my desire for marriage is just selfish and worldly.
Anybody else who is where I’m at? Anybody else who was and can offer some sound advice?