I am a Catholic and right now having a serious relationship with a non-Catholic partner. He is a nice man and taking our relationship very seriously.
Some days ago we had a serious discussion about marriage. He asked me how I think about marriage and I explained about the sacramental Catholic marriage and my belief in a ‘once in a life time’ marriage. He is a “non active” Christian and right now having a very ‘realistic and logical’ thinking about marriage concept because he had a traumatic experience in marriage. He divorced his ex-wife about two years ago because his ex left him for another man (his colleage). (Their marriage only last for 4 years and lucky they had no children). This bad experience made him very difficult to believe in marriage anymore.
He loves me and has done averything to convince me that he really takes our relationship seriously. However in our discussion he is trying to express that he is scared of marriage and said that his commitment to me is as much as when he is married.
He asked me to explain to him (for the sake of discussion and to convince him) about the difference between getting legally married and a partnership without marriage. He keep saying that the difference is only the signature in the certificate, as he has the same commitment anyway either way.
I need to explain about the importance of marriage for me as a Catholic, eventually. How can I explain to him so he can buy it. He keeps saying that marriage does not guarantee in anyway for a couple to stay together. He said the most important is his loyalty and commitment.
I already explained about my belief and faith however he is being so realistic and keeps giving me logical explanation about why it is difficult for him to believe in marriage anymore.
Any suggestion on how I should convince him.