I know we already had a thread about this, but when I offered my idea of just junking the other poster’s DH’s stuff, she said he would notice.
I don’t think mine would even know they are gone.
He has SO MUCH stuff you guys, I don’t know what to do. We have bullhorns in our bedroom. Bull HORNS. Not the kind that actually amplifies a voice, but the kind that once reigned majestically from a bovine’s head. PLEASE don’t get me started on the numerous amounts of odd electronics. I think we must have 5 or 6 DVD players. I knwo we have 2 portable ones. He also LOVES to collect earphones. Last time I tried to get all the wires in one place I counted 14 sets of earphones. Ipod little ones, right up to old walkman big ones. OK get this, he loses the cords for everything. When he doesn’t lose the actual electronic component itself. He’ll then tear apart the whole entire house and garage looking for a cord (I had a cord bin that I would throw any stray cord into to help out. I have not seen the cord bin since the move. sigh.) and while doing that he doesn’t clean up the mess after him as goes desperately seeking out cords. While this is very annoying – including him putting the home’s stress level through the roof – with an attitude that nobody can do or say anything until he finds his things – it’s financially burduning since he will go out and buy whatever he’s lost, again. Which of course two of everything means more CLUTTER.
I could cry.
We have BOXES of VHS tapes that typically we have the DVD counter-for. Since he can’t put DVD’s back (last deployment I went and bought DVD cases, I got rid of ALL of our DVD cases so that the movie could go in sleeves.) Now they are in stacks. I recently forced him to clean that up, but I suspect they are in stacks in a chest in our family room. When he searches for a VHS that he MUST SEE RIGHT NOW, he’ll leave stacks of VHS tapes - not put them back. Right behind the garage door. So I can’t open it to get to my laundry room. :mad:
Please note I have three kids so I have a heck of a time following them around trying to make them clean up. Much less DH. It’s caused so much stress and arguments over the years, plus it leaves me resentful and even unwilling to clean up. While I understand that is a sort of immature attitude, it seems to be beyond my control. I just don’t want to cleanup after someone like this all the darn time.
Saturday we cleaned out quite a bit of the garage. DH has seen things he hasn’t seen in years. So he didn’t even KNOW he has it. MIND YOU: he did not bring them in the house but got very excited just to know they are in the garage. Arggghhhh! He spent a good hour sorting DVD’s (don’t get me started) while I am throwing out major amounts of just trash – un-needed paperwork, toys, little broken bits of this or that. Things I haven’t seen or used in years/months I just chucked with a solid “bye! Nice knowing ya, don’t need ya anymore!”
You guys, I have actually thought “if my house burned down while we were gone I would be so grateful to start over, with NOTHING.” Of course with no physical threat to our kids or us, but it just seems so freeing you know?
So I think I am just going to start chucking things out. My reasoning is, after witnessing his reaction to his long-forgotten stuff, he wont even know what he is missing right? What do you think? Even those VHS tapes can be sold or pawned. We need to pay for our homebirth (and I need a clutter free home TO birth in!) and have so much we can be rid of.
I am starting to drown in a sea of clutter.
Oh yeah, the sheer amount of toys in this house, they got to go. It’s rediculous. They - the kids - really only play with two or three toys. All the rest just get dragged out to make a mess. They seem to be breeding! :eek:
So what would you do? Start tossing? Or save the stuff and let them deal with it?