Hey yall, This is my first post but ive been around the forums for about a year. This last lenten season I have returned to the Church and really been seeking a more fulfilling life in Christ. I have been striving to rid my life from as much sin as possible. In some areas I have been very successful, in particular in breaking my addictions to Pornography and Masterbation. (Testimonies on here relating to the former really helped in combating that sin)
Unfortunetly there is an elephant in the room in my life and that is that my girlfriend and I are sexually active. We have been toghether a little over a year and a half and started having sex quite early. I wish I had returned to the church sooner as it would be alot easier to say I wanted to wait till marriage before we had been toghether. Being as it is we have been sexually active and its proving to be quiet a trial to me. I want to stop so that we can wait till marriage, but im not particularly sure how to approach the subject. She is Christian but not Catholic (although she has been coming to Mass with me with increasing frequency) but like me before I returned to the Church sees no problem with premarital sex in a commited relationship. I wish we could just get married sooner but as it is it looks to be about 2 years before we can get married.
So in a nut shell, whats the best way to approach this in the context of a already active couple and not wanting to damage the relationship. I have little doubt our relationship would survive as strong as it is, but I want to make the transition as smooth as possible for both our sakes.
Thanks in advance and God Bless.