Advice on discerning

Hello everyone. Om currently in RCIA and have been learning more and more about the catholic faith. Upon reading about Jesus call to give up all your possesions and follow him and how he will turn a man against his father and a daughter against her mother as well as when jesus talks about some are eunichs for the sake of the kingdom of Heaven got me thinking. Reading these got me worried if im on the right track in life. I love my girlfriend and have always felt like I should get married and start a family. I just dont know if this is my desire or Gods desire for me? Should the two lign up?The question is how do I know if this is Gods will. This may sound crazy but reading these verses makes me feel if I am happy with her or my life then I should give it up. Im so confused on how to know what is Gods will and am very afraid of choosing the wrong vocation in life and disobeying God. Thanks for your help.

Welcome to the faith, and welcome to reality, no one can give you an answer other than to pray.

If you feel at peace with a decision then it is a good starting point at heading in a good direction, an i dont know what eunichs got ya thinking about, dunno if i wana know, but would state eunichs back in the day where for an entirely different reason, and as of now, mutilation is a no go. An i like that scripture about family member against family member, the thought that i had with that is ; if a Christian / Catholic family is living and moving towards Christ, then there is conflict of having to chose between Christ and ones’ loved ones ( family ) as they would be moving in the same direction.

Plus getting married is a two way street, if the one you want to marry doesn’t want to marry you, then what ? ( an not just you but anyone who felt they were called to marrage ).

And if you think you can figure out Gods’ will, good luck with that, cause once ya think ya have it figured out something else pops up to either challenge it or make you realize it isn’t as you think.

Other than that all anyone here can do including myself is speculate,

your best bet, keep praying and work on learning how to listen.

Welcome home to Rome!

If you want to be with her, and she wants to be with you, then persevere.

The way these scriptures have jumped out at you may be an invitation to lectio divina. Is there a particular word in those scriptures which have stuck with you? Have you mulled over those words? “Taste and see the goodness of the Lord.”

Eunichs? What would happen to your faith if she left you? Are you single-hearted for God to the point that you serving her is serving God as well?

Interior silence, sacramentals, and the sacraments. Attend adoration when at all possible.



Abandonment to Divine Providence Jean-Pierre de Caussade

I believe that if those souls that tend towards sanctity were instructed as to the conduct they ought to follow, they would be spared a good deal of trouble. I speak as much of people in the world as of others. If they could realise the merit concealed in the actions of each moment of the day: I mean in each of the daily duties of their state of life, and if they could be persuaded that sanctity is founded on that to which they give no heed as being altogether irrelevant, they would indeed be happy.

If, besides, they understood that to attain the utmost height of perfection, the
safest and surest way is to accept the crosses sent them by Providence at every moment, that the true philosopher’s stone is submission to the will of God which changes into divine gold all their occupations, troubles, and sufferings, what consolation would be theirs! What courage would they not derive from the thought that to acquire the friendship of God, and to arrive at eternal glory, they had but to do what they were doing, but to suffer what they were suffering, and that what they wasted and counted as nothing would suffice to enable them to arrive at eminent sanctity: far more so than extraordinary states and wonderful works. O my God! how much I long to be the missionary of Your holy will, and to teach all men that there is nothing more easy, more attainable, more within
reach, and in the power of everyone, than sanctity.

How I wish that I could make them understand that just as the good and the bad thief had the same things to do and to suffer; so also two persons, one of whom is worldly and the other leading an interior and wholly spiritual life have, neither of them, anything different to do or to suffer; but that one is sanctified and attains eternal happiness by submission to Your holy will in those very things by which the other is damned because he does them to please himself, or endures them with reluctance and rebellion.

This proves that it is only the heart that is different. Oh! all you that read this, it will cost you no more than to do what you are doing, to suffer what you are suffering, only act and suffer in a holy manner. It is the heart that must be changed. When I say heart, I mean will. Sanctity, then, consists in willing all that God wills for us. Yes! sanctity of heart is a simple “fiat,” a conformity of will with the will of God. What could be more easy, and who could refuse to love a will so kind and so good? Let us love it then, and this love alone will make everything in us divine.


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