Hi all, this is my first post, and it’s a long one. Any thoughts or advice is appreciated.
First off, let me provide some background: I am a Roman Catholic engaged to a non-denominational protestant. We will be married in a Catholic church early next year, but my fiancé has no plans on converting at this time. My fiancé and I want her protestant faith heritage to be reflected in our marriage by having her brother, a Reformed [Orthodox – I think] Presbyterian minister of the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA), participate in the ceremony by offering an opening prayer. We have cleared this with the Catholic priest leading our ceremony who in turn cleared it with our diocese canon lawyer. The Church’s policy on a request like this is actually fairly liberal; basically as long as what he plans to say is scripted and approved by the priest, there’s no issues from the Catholic side.
Unfortunately, when we approached her brother about it, he eventually rejected us on the grounds that he felt it would be breaking the vows he took as a minister. Specifically his objection was that he vowed to be, “zealous and faithful in maintaining the truths of the Gospel,” and he feels he would be, “breaking that vow by participating in a Catholic wedding ceremony because the Catholic church teaches a false gospel”.
I have been a Catholic all my life, and have limited knowledge on Presbyterian/PCA beliefs. Searching via Google led me to these forums, and I was hoping some folks on here more knowledgeable on Presbyterians/PCA would be able to chime in on what specifically he means, and if there are any points that might be worth bringing up that may lead him to reconsider. As this is something that means a great deal to my fiancé, I’m very much interested in any advice.