I know your post primarily deals with clothing, but don’t forget to talk about attitude and actions. In addition to dressing like they are “looking for action”, too many teenage girls flirt a little too aggressively.
Last week one of my 14yo son’s hockey buddies brought a cousin (not sure of her age, but definitely a teen) to practice. In addition to wearing a tight, white, midrif-bearing top with a black bra underneath and tight, low-cut jeans, she was flirting with just about every boy on the team and then hanging around right outside the locker room as they were changing for practice. I had to constantly keep closing the door to keep the half-naked boys from flirting back.
I don’t know what her intentions were (I’m trying to be charitable), but give me a break! I asked my son if he noticed her, and he said “Yeah, can you believe that?! She was even checking me out on the way out of the locker room!” I don’t believe rape (date- or otherwise) is ever warranted and I know people hate to hear this, but this kind of activity invites serious sin.
I’m glad you are tackling this issue, and I will pray for your strength.
My God, what parents raised the one you describe here? This is failrly common unfortunatly nowadays with many girls who are not even aware at times that they are giving men the impression that they are easy, bimboish, etc, etc, etc. How sad. Well, most also lack the father figure at home, who actaully has some authority(if his wife has not taken it away from him)at home over his children to put discipline. Also, well there are many broken homes in divorce etc.
I highly admire any woman who has high self esteem where she does not need to get the self esteem from the attention of guys. Also, one who totally dresses modest, not giving in to peer pressure is what most decent well educated guys really want for a relationship. Unless the guy is a hoodlum, or well an anti-social, he will admire decent women who respect their bodies(ESPECIALLY IN SUMMER) enough not to give the impression that they are easy etc.
Many blessings to the very mature ones who so value modesty and self respect, that they actually start a thread as this one.