I’m a Protestant woman in a relationship with a wonderful Catholic man. I started going to mass with him over a year ago, and this past September decided to start the RCIA process! I’ve fallen in love with the faith, and I’m excited to share in the fullness of God and His true church with my boyfriend. One thing that’s come up through RCIA is the concept of mortal sin–namely the need to confess and abstain from the Eucharist until doing so. My boyfriend and I have had (and continue to have) premarital sex. I’m not asking for permission or for you to tell me that this isn’t a mortal sin–that would be arrogant, ignorant, and misguided of me. My question is this–I would be okay to stop having sex until marriage. I’m so excited to have my first reconciliation and receive the Eucharist at Easter. I also believe that my boyfriend is indeed the man I will marry. I’m worried though that he won’t want to also stop having sex. I’m worried that it’s become too much a habit in our relationship, and I really don’t want to lose him or drive him away. At the same time, I don’t want to wait until I’m married to take the Eucharist regularly. I also don’t want to make a false confession every week and then continue to sin again the following week–that would be much worse. I’m lost and looking for advice–please help!