My situation is a little tricky. My husband and I are separated, so I am living at my folks’ house and my child is attending school here so I can’t move for a couple of years because I could not afford a place nearby and disrupting education again would be difficult.
My parents are currently able to live on their own as long as nothing happens. If Dad gets sick, they absolutely need help as my mother’s health makes her unable to care for him. But if Mom gets sick, he doesn’t really know what to do, so he needs help as well.
And of course, this situation will not improve.
So, in the past 8 months, there have been two hospitalizations and two non-hospitalized sickness between them, as well as my child’s having been very sick, along the lines of a serious but not hospitalized flu.
My siblings live really far away, so their ability to help is limited.
Now the help I need.
When I came here, the idea was for me to get a regular job with benefits, etc. However, I was a SAHM for 20+ years and my previous line of work has been overtaken by the internet. Plus, I have no professional contacts here at all. Competition is fierce and everyone is much more educated than I because there are a lot of great universities here.
So I have been working nights at a restaurant, which so started doing because then my days would have been available for job interviews, etc., but were often taken up by filling in the gaps for my family.g
This has made me feel worried about getting a day job. I absolutely would not have been able to both keep a job and take care of my family this year.
Also, I never did get any responses from sending out resumes so I feel like getting that type of job is a bit of a non-starter. And it’s really depressing me to have to re-write my resume individually for each job I apply for, as well as half the time re-write everything into their forms, only to hear nothing back. Even temp agencies didn’t respond
I would have problems looking for a job anyway, but the issue of my parents is making it much worse. Because as their situation worsens, my feelings will be torn and plus my mother seems to think a job, while good for getting me out of the house, is just more like a hobby that I can ask time off from whenever she does want me to be around. (I am not my mother’s favorite.)
So, I could just kind of not do what the original plan was, and continue with the restaurant and possibly work into doing freelance work
And I am just not sure what to do, which is why if anyone has experience with this and could give me some advice, I would really appreciate it Sorry this is so long, I couldn’t figure out what to cut.