cannot offer advice, only prayers, and suggest St. Igatius’ rules for discernment of these tought life decisions. I can relate a story. Just got together with all my siblings for the first time in years. We looked at slides, shared stories, had a great time with memories of Dad and Mom who are both gone now. We older ones shared something the youngers were not aware of, except in its negative effects on our family.
Dad, no degree, got a job after the war in an industrial communications company that normally would go to a college person, on the strenght of his wartime specialized exprience. The salary was not great but enough to start a family, buy a small starter home, and a small used car, and he got small but regular salary increases. About 10 yrs later he was offered a job at what was then one of the top ad agencies, and took it, at what to him was a fabulous salary and benefit package.
If you catch Mad Men, the new show about ad agency culture in the 50s and 60s, you will see what he came up against in that job. My mom had just converted to Catholicism and they were very committed to Catholic family values (7 pregnancies in 13 years, for instance). Well, he quit the job after 3 months and went back to the old job, lesser position, lesser salary, lost all his seniority (which meant when he did get sick and have to retire, he got no pension). So the financial sacrifice was huge and our family was in a rather dire way for at least 3 years until he caught up with things.
the point I am making is that my older brother and I never forgot his explanation of his actions. he said to us and our mother: I could not remain a Christian and continue to work in that place.
This attitude of his, and our mother’s support of his decision, have been life-defining for us kids, and gave us an unshakable moral compass, gift of our parents. Your actions will have impact on your life and on your family, but don’t underestimate the good that can come, long term, even from short term suffering in the cause of righteousness.