[quote=Loboto-Me]Yes, I knew I was overeacting.
I’ve already got alot of backtracking to do (I wrote this message AFTER having a run in with him). It’s a good thing that we didn’t go as far as yelling over it but I did say a few things that I regret.
I wonder what I can now do to smooth out the situation.
My problem is, that I could never behave in such a manner that it would show that I don’t mind that a woman is interested in “kids”. Yes, legally he’s an adult, I know that, but YUK! What possesses a woman to want to get involved with a person that’s still in his teens?
Ok, breathing in, breathing out… whew! My son went and told her everything I said about her (when I found out he was dating her)… then blamed ME for hurting her feelings. I told him that he should have told her that I wasn’t ready to meet her, that I didn’t approve and that it might take some time to warm me up, rather than tell her all the juicy details of our conversation. That is the level of maturity he’s at right now. Now how do I fix this with my son, and ultimately, with this woman? She knows that I was vehemently opposed, that I thought there was something wrong with her thinking, that I called him “practically a victim of pedophilia” etc! Ugh! I have a big mouth!
I’m almost positive they’re sexually active, and I’ve warned him that sometimes some women feel their biological clock ticking and may feel that a naive person could give them a child if they don’t have anyone older that is interested. I’m sure he told her this as well.
You know, I have put myself in a precarious position with my anger, but how to “fix” it now?
Call her, or approach them when they’re together and say that you’re afraid you got off on the wrong foot and would like to start over, if they’re willing. Simplicity and humility often do the trick.