[quote="JRKH, post:2, topic:242420"]
Do you live nearby? Can you physically be of help?
It's a great thing to be able to actually get in and help in a very tangible way.
Thank you James - yes, I am about 45 minutes away, so I go to his house when I can. My husband and I have very demanding work schedules so it's not always possible, but I have the ability to work from any location so it helps if I have to be with him. I also have an amazingly understanding manager who recently lost her own father and is extremely supportive of "family ALWAYS comes first".
[quote="karow, post:3, topic:242420"]
As far as your father's anxiety, a doctor's visit might be in order. He's in crisis, obviously, and his physician might be able to recommend a course of treatment to help get his anxiety under control so that he's better able to deal with the (potential) loss of his wife as well as be able to be a better support to her. It doesn't have to be anything permanent, just something to get him past all of this.
Yes, he is already on medication to help with his anxiety and depression, but I do not feel it is working for him and it needs to be changed and/or adjusted. He has an appointment tomorrow so I'm praying (and begging him) that he will be totally open and honest with the doctor about how he's doing so they can truly assist him.
As much as you're able to, you might think about how you can be a barrier between your step-mother and your dad, and the "other family garbage." I don't know how you would do this exactly as you didn't (and nor should you feel the need to) provide details, but that's just something to think about. If you're able to shield them from extraneous family drama they might be able to better focus on each other.
Yeah - that's not really an option, unfortunately. :( I have no control over that other situation.
After my grandmother's illness and death in 1980, I sought therapy through my university's student health center for depression and grief support. I don't even remember the man's name, but the therapist told me something that's stayed with me for more than 30 years. He said that it was an honor for me to have had the chance to care for my grandmother as she died, that the other people in my family who chose not to help out had lost as incredible opportunity to honor my grandmother before she died. Thinking of it in those terms helped me a lot.
Oh yes!!!! I absolutely agree with this! NO ONE else has stepped forward in the family to help, only me. He has apologized to me so many times, and I just told him --- hey, I was born for this! :)
[quote="garyo49, post:4, topic:242420"]
I'm wondering if you can get some help from your parish. I can't imagine people in my parish not wanting to help. God bless you and I will pray for you and you patents
While this would be a great idea in some situations, it is not practical for us. My parish is very far away from where my dad lives, and he is EXTREMELY private about his situation and would never ever let a stranger in.
[quote="GratefulDad, post:5, topic:242420"]
Here are some of hints and tips, aka the Spiritual Armor of God that I have picked up from a certain Catholic TV enterprise.;)
- Attending the Latin Mass as much as possible even during the week.
- Listening to Sacred Music and Georgian Chant, YouTube & Watershed have great material and most is free to listen to.
- Reading and meditate on Fatima and Our Lady of the Rosary
- Read and meditate on St. Theresa the Little Flower. Her writings of, "The Little Way" and "The Story of A Soul"
- Read and meditate on St. Faustina and the Divine Mercy
- Listen/watch the recordings of Bishop Fulton Sheen, again YouTube.
These are just my favorites and there are many others. Like the Novena of the Sacred Heart that just happens to run this month June 19th - 27th.
God Bless and Praying for you...... GratefulDad
Thank you so much!! These are all great suggestions. My husband and I will be starting weekly adoration this week, so that will help I know. I also try to get to where he works and pray the evening office with the staff as many times during the week as possible.
Thank you ALL for your wonderful posts! :grouphug: Daddy had a better day yesterday, and got out of the house and spent time with my step-sister and her kids. Not something that is easy for him to do right now, but I'm glad he did it anyway.