I would recommend you pick up the book Why We’re Catholic by Trent Horn. It’s an easy read. You read it first, if it leaves you with any questions send me an email and I will be happy to help explain further. After you understand what you read give it to him. If you are ready for marriage then you should have no problem asking him to read it and he should have no problem sacrificing 15 minutes a day to read this for you.
To be blunt, if he isn’t open to spending 15 minutes reading this and communicating on it now, you are going to have many more faith based communication problems when you have kids.
To be blunt is the hoop to high to make it worth it. My wife an I dated for 4 years before we got married. Long distance relationship. No cell phones communicated by snail mail 3 letters a week. I would have jumped through a 6 inch hoop that was on fire with a bed of nails on the other side just to be with her.
No but you should have to prove to each other. I loved our marriage class. Not sure if they still do it but we attended a marriage prep retreat. It was awesome. Lot’s of classes to attend. Speakers giving great insight on how to communicate better. Lot’s of dialogue on paper. Writing is such a better way to communicate. You can put it all down and make sure you didn’t miss anything. Lot’s of free time as well. Plenty of other couples there as well to discuss how you met what’s your plans, etc…
If you can find a retreat you don’t know what you are missing
He means for us.
That’s part of marriage. Once you say I do that’s the last time you get to say “I”. From now on it is we.
Get the book