I am a biological child. My siblings were all adopted as well as a lot of cousins on my dad's side of the family. There was this one uncle we use to see all the time and his kids were all adopted. I always felt adopted kids had the life because they were treated so much better than me and my parents were always stricter on me to ensure no one would accuse them of favoring the 'real' one.
Well...... Here is my issue and please see it from my perspective. One of my adoptive cousin's brother contacted me a few months ago looking for my cousin. He only knows her maiden name which is why he never found her. I told him that I would give my cousin his number and let her make all the decision. I did what I though was right and refused to give him any other information.
Well, this guys wife called me for an update. I take that to mean my cousin did not contact her biological brother. Apparently this man was really upsets and needed to find his sister. During both calls they cried on my shoulder about how hard this all was for them. And the process they had to go through just to get her name after she was adopted and blah blah blah.
Well...... Right now I resent that they unloaded on me with absolutely no desire to hear my side and how being the only biological kid came with a price tag
But what brings me to tears as I write that, is all of my siblings and lots of my cousin's have a 'second' family they can contact and I don't. They could all jump ship and have someone to go and I don't. It hurts that all these people could mistreat me and if they choose, they can leave and possibly have another family. I would be insanely jealous of any relationship any of them built with their biological family. I have no say in the matter because it is THEIR family. Yet again, the non-adopted person gets the short end of the stick and can't do a thing about it. It hurts