A close female friend of mine was involved in an alarming incident last night with a 25 year old man she met on Catholic Match. She has known this guy for three weeks and made the foolish mistake telling him where she lives and allowing him to come over. This guy was exhibiting creepy, narcissistic, bullying behavior for approximately a week. The few friends that she told about this guy/ situation (including me) told her to stay away from him but she didn't listen. He claimed to be a devout Catholic, told her her wanted to only be friends until they began to court each other etc., I guess he had her fooled. Last night he came to her apartment and began to act inappropriately. She demanded that he leave and he refused, he then became forceful. She left her apartment and went to stay with a friend. He called her 6 times and sent her a barrage of text messages. He is clearly a creeper, stalker and mentally unbalanced person.
I just wanted to share this as a sort of warning. I used Catholic Match for 6 months and was always amazed by how willing young women were to meet me in person almost immediately, even in non-public places. I met my current girlfriend on Ave Maria Singles and she told me about meeting a guy at his apartment the very first time they met! Very poor decision making. I'm sure desperation can play a part in that, I have been there.
Anyway, just pass this along to people you know that are using Catholic Dating sites. There are definitely unstable people there, even people who claim to love our Lord and practice the faith. I guess I will state the obvious, stick to public places, drive separately, meet during the day, let people know where you're going, who you will be with and how they can contact you. Etc.
Peace and blessings.