Family history: My grandfather died of alcoholism before I was born. In his teens, my dad had to carry him home from the bar through a small town. One of my aunts drank herself to death-denying drinking when she called even though you could hear the ice cubes clinking in her glass. Her son, my cousin, drank himself to death in his 50s. My only brother died at age 43 from alcohol and drug use. Those are the ones I am aware of. Before I even knew the Lord, he gave me the grace to walk away from alcohol. Praise God!
Tell him that happiness doesn’t come in bottles. It comes from God knowing everything he needs and providing it through grace. Tell him that he was not born to drink himself to death-that there is a higher purpose for his life. Tell him it hurts you each and every time you think about him. Tell him that his life is not his, it is a gift from God. Please do not pass judgment on him, only point out his error with patience and promise to help. Tell him you love him like a brother and it’s breaking your heart to see him drink. Tell him that the evil one delights in every drink he takes, because it turns him away from God, and toward the lie that is alcohol. Tell him satan is the father of all lies and was present, smiling, when he took his first drink. Tell him that satan is a coward and will flee if he only has the courage to call upon Christ for help. Ask him how long he has been sober in the past. Reassure him that he can do it again, since he has the strength already within him. Encourage him to recall sober times when he was truly happy. Contrast that to his life with alcohol. Remind him that becoming sober is similar to when he first learned to walk-that he fell many times, but got right back up and kept trying until he mastered it. He did not stay there on the floor!, Tell him, in love, whatever it takes to speak to his heart.
Alcoholism is similar to depression in that it involves a disordered amount of self-pity. Take him on a visit to those who are truly sick, impoverished or profoundly disabled and watch as his problems shrink in comparison. Once perspective is restored, his “reason” for drinking will be greatly diminsihed. God bless you in your efforts.