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Why do we feel so hopeless and helpless when things go wrong? Why do we feel depressed, stressed, and destitude? Why do we get so angry we just go crazy? What does this mean if it happens too often? Is it sinful to feel these feelings repeatedly even if you pray and try to seek guidance from God?


what do you mean “we” :wink:

no feelings aren’t a sin
you have no control over those

what you do with them may be


Hey, I am referring to me but I had “we” in my head for some reason. Sorry for any confusion…thanks


[quote=Heather07]Hey, I am referring to me but I had “we” in my head for some reason. Sorry for any confusion…thanks

You were probably right the first time when you said “we”, because I think that what you describe is just a part of the human condition. We feel “helpless” because we are! We must rely completely on God for everything and because we know He loves us and that He wants only what is best for us we should not feel “hopeless”. He knows what we need better than we do. Sometimes what we think is good for us is really not, but He is the only one that can see that. So when He takes it away we suffer and feel the loss, but ultimately it was exactly what was needed for our well being.
I have a great book that you should read called “Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence” and it talks all about this stuff. None of this will make you feel better right now but I guarantee that once time has passed you will look back and realize the good that came from your current trouble.


I tend to look at life as a series of problems that need to be solved. Sometimes two or three problems need to be solved at a time, sometimes none. Like a series of math problems, there is always a solution to the most difficult problem in front of you.

Since “Chance favors the prepared mind”, the more you study the Bible, Jesus, and the teachings of the Catholic Church, the more information you will have for problem solving by preparing your mind.

St. Francis, St. Augustine, St. Thomas Aquinas, Mother Teresa, et. al., all had problems that they solved with Jesus, the Church, theology & philosophy, and they sat down and hammered their life problems out.

As an intelligent, wise, and mature Catholic: You just got to sit down and think about things and always do the right thing, the positive thing; and if you have a real doosy of a life problem then always chose for life (and not darkness).

Makes living a whole lot more fun to be able to solve life problems!

Think about it first :hmmm: Then make the right decision you can always live with :thumbsup:



AFAIK, of what you mention only Despair is a sin against the Holy Ghost. Pray on the Three Theological Virtues: Faith, Hope and Charity. Oremus (Let us pray) for Grace and the Seven Gifts of the Holy Ghost: Wisdom, Understanding, Counsel, Fortitude, Knowledge, Piety and Fear of the Lord…

Trust in Our Lord, He will see you through all.

Gloria Patri, et Filio, et Spiritui Sancto. Sicut erat in principio, et nunc et semper, et in saecula saeculorum. Amen.



I responded to your other post on depression. Please seek help from a doctor right away. Despite what people are saying, depression is not always a spiritual problem. Sometimes it’s a physical or medical problem that needs to be addressed. That’s not to say that you should stop praying or receiving the sacraments, especially confession.

I would stand back and look at my life and wonder why I couldn’t handle things anymore. I tried to figure it out on my own but until I got medical help I was unable to overcome the depression and accompanying symptoms.
God Bless,


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