All these sex threads


#1

are turning my stomach. Enough already.

Really people some stuff is better left unsaid. When you think about certain things too much I think that's where the problems come from :confused::eek::shrug:


#2

“More souls go to hell for sins of the flesh than all the other sins combined”

-Sister Lucia, Our Lady of Fatima


#3

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but you don't have to read the threads. For those of us that want to give our help, there's no issue.


#4

I agree that some of them are pretty explicit. The threads started by people who are brand new and only have one post and never come back make me a little suspicious. I can't help but wonder whether they are just trolling a religious forum with threads that read more like a porn story. :confused:
I think it's great that people can come here with legitimate questions, but the thread's title should warn that the subject is sensitive so people browsing don't have to read something shocking unless they actually click on the thread.


#5

:popcorn:
(ah, another thread about how we have too many sex threads. Wonder how long this thread will get?)
:D


#6

[quote="Alexander_Smith, post:3, topic:213319"]
I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but you don't have to read the threads. For those of us that want to give our help, there's no issue.

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True, BUT some of the thread titles alone are a bit too explicit. You don't even have to read the thread to find it annoying. Especially when you search the whole forum using the "Today's Posts" feature and they all pop up one after the other.


#7

I went to a priest the other day and I was upset that men kept hitting on me even though I am not even divorced yet much less anulled and calling themselves “Good Catholic Men.” as their catch line. Well, he explained to me that Satan was setting two traps for me - the first of lust if I say yes. The second trap of condemnation when I finally get mad enough to tell one of these men what I really think. Could that be what this thread is really about?


#8

Maybe people feel more comfortable coming on here and asking anonymously about something they are embarrassed about. Ever think of that? I sure hope you aren't ever the one needing help some day......


#9

[quote="OSUbride0708, post:8, topic:213319"]
Maybe people feel more comfortable coming on here and asking anonymously about something they are embarrassed about. Ever think of that? I sure hope you aren't ever the one needing help some day......

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What? You don't think a good Catholic would feel self-conscious bringing this stuff up with the neighbors over coffee and donuts after Mass, do you? :rolleyes:

(If you think Too Much Information applies on an anonymous forum....:eek:)


#10

I believe the extremely graphic sex threads are probably trolls taking advantage of the good natured but extremely gullible people of CAF.

Besides, how else are you going to get away with talking about diry, naughty sex? You can either have voyeuristic discussions on sexual morality or you can talk about not talking about sex. :shrug:


#11

Your right Sierrah. I find it disgusting as well. I also think people have NO SHAME sometimes.

Keep the descriptions of graphic personal problems to a bare minimum!


#12

I disagree. I'd say that in most of the cases the posters are honestly curious about their questions and are simply too embarrassed to talk to someone in person. They come here because it's the only place they know they can get honest answers without being judged in real life.
I do think that there is enough regular discussion of sexual morality to warrant its own discussion board, with perhaps an age restriction of possible.


#13

I totally agree!

I think the big issue most people have is that you go your whole childhood feeling like all you ever commit are venial sins, and then one day you wake up and suddenly cutting yourself off from God becomes a real possibility and its not so easy to avoid. People are afraid of Hell and sexuality is a very powerful thing. As such moral delemnas will seem to need more immediate attention than some venial sin, and the anger about being accused of rejecting God is something people can be very senstive about.


#14

Oh, no, couldn’t we please clothe the descriptions? I find the thought of a bare minimum threatening and vulgar.


#15

Why do so many Catholics think that sex is disgusting?

Human sexuality is the only thing which keeps us from going extinct.

A sick and depraved prudishness is not honest or authentic. Humans are sexual beings. And there is nothing wrong with that.


#16

I personally don't care either way. The discussions don't make me uncomfortable, although I did suggest that maybe an option was included that allowed posters to "lock" their threads as it were to posters that report being under a certain age, or whatever. That way people could talk in earnestly without worrying about younger posters or whatever. I think it's good to have a place where people can talk about things that bother them that are maybe a little too sensitive or in depth for normal social interaction.

My idea was severely criticised by other posters though. heh.


#17

[quote="Magickman, post:15, topic:213319"]
Why do so many Catholics think that sex is disgusting?

Human sexuality is the only thing which keeps us from going extinct.

A sick and depraved prudishness is not honest or authentic. Humans are sexual beings. And there is nothing wrong with that.

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You can use words like "sick" and "depraved"--nearly always condemned as hate speech if turned the other direction these days, I might add--and "prudishness", but the truth is that there haven't been any civilizations, excepting those on the verge of collapse, that haven't had sexual mores of some sort or another. Just because there is nothing wrong with being a sexual being does not mean that nothing you can think to do with your sexuality can possibly be "sick" or "depraved." Yet can you tell me some sort of sexuality that someone in our culture doesn't think is perfectly healthy, normal, and worthy of widespread acceptance? Sadism, masochism, and pedophilia all have their partisans, and increasing, these are open partisans. Most things in-between are being defended more fiercely than motherhood! Boundaries, anyone?

You could hardly say that Catholics aren't doing our part to keep the race from going extinct. It is no accident that it is Catholics who make a strong connection between the beauty of sex and the beauty of what Nature intends as its end. The rest of the culture, meanwhile, keeps divorcing sex more and more and as much as possible from anything other than personal satisfaction and expression of self.

Ironically, it is the very people who are being accused of being prudes who are actually getting the results from their sexuality that Nature intended. That tells me something about the "group think" that's out there.


#18

What I do on my fan sites is if there is a thread about a movie or topic that is meant for older children or adults, we put a tag in front of the subject.

For example, "[PG-13] Twilight" or "[R] The Runaways." That way, people will know how graphic the thread is, and posters can reply accordingly.

I think it would be a good idea to do that on here. Anything graphic should have an [R] tag in front of it (meaning ages 17+ or 18+ in some areas). Less graphic topics not meant for small children should have a [PG-13] tag. And if someone is caught posting in an area they're not supposed to be in, they can be banned/account suspended/IP block/etc. like they do on Facebook or MySpace. Seriously, parents need to watch their children.

That said, adults should be able to talk about their problems. This is not the place to seek or give medical advice, but it is a place where people can post anonymously and not feel embarrassed. If it gets too graphic like a romance novel (a.k.a. porn for women), then maybe a CAF staffperson can edit the post accordingly.


#19

I agree with Magickman. There* is* a difference between unhealthy prudery, that makes a healthy discussion of sex and sexuality seem obscene; normal, Catholic discussion of sexual issues; and pornography or immodestly explicit discussion of sexuality. I'm not on the forums all that often, and I miss a lot, but from what I've read, the posts on sex seem to be from couples who are confused (perhaps because their education in Catholic sexuality leaned toward the prudish) about what they can morally do in marriage. They seem to want desperately to do God's will, and to love their spouses as best they can, but they haven't been educated or formed in a right understanding.

It must be a blessing for a confused couple to have an anonymous forum to discuss these questions, which are every bit as valid and important as any other question on how to live out one's faith.


#20

[quote="Whitacre_Girl, post:16, topic:213319"]
I personally don't care either way. The discussions don't make me uncomfortable, although I did suggest that maybe an option was included that allowed posters to "lock" their threads as it were to posters that report being under a certain age, or whatever. That way people could talk in earnestly without worrying about younger posters or whatever. I think it's good to have a place where people can talk about things that bother them that are maybe a little too sensitive or in depth for normal social interaction.

My idea was severely criticised by other posters though. heh.

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At first I was thinking well people just don't have to read them - but then I remembered a certain situation with a teenager that was suspended for suggesting being "kinky" so obviously not all parents are watching their children or share our moral values. However, that being said we still need a place where teenagers that are struggling can come ask questions about chastity or abortion if they are getting mixed signals. So,why not keep these kinds of threads to the Theology of the Body group (I think there is one if I am not mistaken) and leave the main forums open to keep things safe for the children. After all I can think of in the past couple months I have heard of vibrators, fuzzy cuffs, anal sex, and a few other things being discussed. Like I said yes, married adults may have these concerns but I hope the teens don't. I PRAY they don't. Let us not provide them with soft porn.


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