[quote="llenadegracia, post:2, topic:317019"]
I'm not sure and I could be way off here, but I'll provide some of my thoughts and experiences...
I think a key difference is agreement vs obedience. If a person understands (believes) that the Church is the infallible creation of the Lord, then obedience on every subject would be a must. This, in my opinion, doesn't necessarily mean they'll agree on every topic simply because we are human and sometimes can't wrap our head around specific teachings. Regardless, we're still called to obedience. I don't think it's about being able to fully understand or have no doubts about any of the Church's teachings, but instead to understand the Lord's call of obedience to His Church...
Now, we must think about the essense of Confirmation. Confirmation is essentially saying, "Yes. I agree with (pledge obedience to) the teachings of the Church". If a person cannot truthfully say that statement...then maybe they should rethink what they're doing?
I work a lot with young teens going through Confirmation, so about age 13 to 14. Much to the horror of their parents, we stress and stress and stress what Confirmation truly is. This means that if they're not ready to truthfully pledge obedience and affirm the Catholic Church that they should rethink Confirmation and the reasons they are receiving the Sacrament.
So in the end, I would really examine some further details such as whether an individual plans to disobey the Church through this disagreement or whether they disagree but will still obey? That's just my thought process on this. I'm not trained in Church doctrine so I could be way off. Best wishes on this matter and I hope it works out.
It's 13 and 14 now? I was 10. I know a couple of yrs ago I attended a Catholic Confirmation Mass. At that one the candidates appeared to me to be more along the lines of maybe 15, 16. I can't help but wonder if children of these ages are even fully capable of digesting all it is they must conform and agree to for the rest of their lives. And truly knowing with certainty they will be able to do so into their early adulthood and beyond forever. Of course they were baptized into membership in the faith at an even earlier age. When in the case of infants, of course they were unable to comprehend even less of what they were getting into.