I’ve gone over all your posts in this thread. I’m surprised that your sentences are often in the passive voice or indicate your passivity (…unless something would happen that would make me feel worse than before; Every time something would happen that would lead me to believe things might be changing; the only way to change it is to not be lonely anymore. For some of us, that seems an impossible task; …if something good happens to you; I come home from work every day and just stay home because I can’t think of anything to do by myself…).
Essentially you have to make things happen. Things don’t just happen to you. Your buddies are married because they’re pro-active. Sometimes they’re led by their wives, but often they’ve made the first move.
There are tons of things that can be done in one’s recreational hours starting with eliminating television viewing. Developing a hobby would be one way to meet others even if you were alone most of the time you worked on it. Say you were to take up woodworking with a proper wood shop. You could sell one item on kijiji and discover there are women who will buy lovely wooden teaspoons or whatever. Or say, you took a second job on such as worker at the canteen at the local concert venue. There are many women working in the service industry. Basically, you shouldn’t stay home much if you’re looking to get married, unless it’s for a definite purpose, such as working on your hobby. The woman you want to marry won’t just happen to be in your home, unless of course you happen to hire a cleaning lady. That’s another way to get to know more women. Cleaning ladies tell their friends about the lovely guy for whom they clean house.
You really have to imagine what sort of woman you would like. Does she like staying home a lot. Why? Does she like sewing? Then start working at a fabric store. Does she like painting the house? Go and work at Lowe’s and sell paint at night. Or does she like the make up department at the mall? Then you go and work at the mall on Saturdays. If you haven’t thought about the hobbies your wife would likely have, you haven’t categorized women well yet. You may be thinking how she will look, but that is a common male mistake.
In my experience, many women are not ambitious. Do you want an ambitious woman? She would be out a lot when you came home from work. Do you want a university-educated woman? Do you want a woman who schedules her life or one who is spontaneous and can easily go where you would like? Do you want one who watches the tv shows you seem to like? She will likely be overweight. Head to the local co-ed gym and she may be trying to lose weight. Or work for Weight Watchers in your community.