This is so embarrassing to admit. I have a friend whose daughter I use to take everywhere and visited them over the holidays. The kid is now 16 and she is gorgeous. She showed me a lot of pictures of herself and to be honest, I was shocked. The pictures are definetly very sexy and not the type of picuture I would have shown of me to my mom. But her mom acts like nothing is wrong
Well, I am jealous because she is having the teenage years I was never allowed to have. She now has a part-time job and more money than I had at that age ( my parents never allowed me to have a part time job in school which was a big source of fights)
Also I am jealous because I was overweight as a teenager and got picked on for it.
And I am jealous because she has more friends than I had.
But more importantly, I am jealous because in a lot of these pictures there are guys with their arm around her or she has her head on their shoulder. At that age no guy wanted to pose like that in a picture with me the class geek. And needles to say, I feel less than because her dating life is just beginning, and I have not had a date in years and to be honest have given up at almost 41 in finding a man without kids who has never been married.
in my day to day life, being single is something I do a good job at accepting. But every six months I visit these friends and for the past 3 visits, the second I see all these pictures of the daughter, I immediately become jealous and feel less than.
Intellectually I now it is a sign of insecurity to value oneself by the amount of guys who are willing to have their picture taken with you. But as humiliating as it is to admit, I do get jealous.
I know this is 100% my issue to deal with and try my best not to take it out on the kid. Apart from prayer can anyone recommend anything else (going to the bar to try and meet a man is not an option;))
Can anyone relate. Are their mothers or aunts on this forum who struggled with jealousy when their daughters started to date?