I know. . .it is awful to think of. It has been going on for a long time, too. . .young girls being ‘used’ by those who equate sex not with love but with power over a person and gratification. This is a cultural thing (and it is not limited to the Third World–we see it in the First World with the sexualizing of little girls, the push for young girls–and boys too–to have sex at younger and younger ages–and the warping of our culture.) Look at the supermodels–groomed to be a provocative mixture of childlike with thin arms and legs, with ‘enhanced’ breasts to make them ‘women’, childlike facial features (big eyes, little noses, a pseudo-innocence put into provocative poses)–children dressed up like Barbie dolls. . . the emphasis for young girls in our culture to 'be thin, dress right, look right, and men will LOVE you" and for boys, “try to get as much as you can to be a man”.
And what is the suggestion by the 'experts?"
Throw condoms. “Educate” people about safe sex.
Because they still think that the problem isn’t about the SEX. . .it’s about the ‘consequences’ of pregnancy and disease. They think that if people were educated about ‘when’ and ‘how’ to have ‘safe’ sex, that is all the people really want–to be ‘safe.’ They think that if they ‘stop girls having babies’ --the ‘consequences’–then they can just have all the FUN SEX they want-- and everybody’s happy.
They forget that it ISN’T FUN to most girls --whether or not there are ‘consequences’–that most girls don’t just want to have sex, sex, sex all the time, when that sex is not ‘love’ but POWER. These people think that if ONLY the girls (and guys) would USE THE BIRTH CONTROL there would be no problems and all the world could just ‘make love’.
It isn’t love that a lot of the men want–it is POWER. They have been so corrupted that they don’t even think of things like love and marriage. . .after all, in our First World many think marriage is ‘a piece of paper’–I don’t need it or want it. “Why marry? I can raise a kid myself.” “I may be married but I’ll just walk away whenever I want, because I can.”
We have to show them what Christian love is. . .because (and it might take awhile) when they truly see it. . .they will want it. At first they’ll be even worse (and this may be what is happening now) because it will seem too HARD for them to do. But as they find out how EMPTY their lives are (I am thinking of the men, too, who may not rouse our sympathy but who have been as hurt by these awful attitudes as the women, and who deep down know they are wrong and are ashamed and deeply angry and need to get through that). . .but with patience things will change.
When you are really ‘down in the gutter’ it is said, and there is no place to go but ‘up’–that’s when things start to change. God is on our side. We must be strong.