Your post touched my heart and thank you for your kindness.
My mom is living with my brothers and their wives on a monthly rotation. Right now I think she is in the last stage as she doesn’t know who anybody is, or where she is, doesn’t know where the bathroom is in the house she lived in for fifty years, she needs bathroom assistance and wears a diaper. On the plus side, she still eats alot, goes with us to restaurants and eats good, and she is still walking good and on her own and she doesn’t want a walker.
I am just worried about the future and making decisions about end of life care. The American Life League wasn’t clear on the issue with regard to alzheimer’s but said a blood test can determine if they are assimilating food.
They also said most Catholic priests will not give me the right choice to make re: the feeding tube, that is why I will be contacting the BioEthics group if necessary.
The way I feel right now is that she will get the feeding tube and if that prolongs her journey that means it was meant for her to live those extra years.
Please pray for my mom Nancy who is a tiny little adorable 88 year old who was a loving mother to three children and lost her husband two years ago (and thankfully never mourned him as she didn’t know who she was living with). And please pray for my brothers and sisters-in-law who are caring for her and give them strength.
If they cannot continue caring for her, she will be going into a nursing home. I don’t know how I will handle that.
And thank you for all the other wonderful people who answered my post.