I grew up in a household without a father and didn’t know who he was. I prayed very fervently that I could one day meet my father and at age 7 my mother finally got in contact with him and I got to meet him. Now it’s been 9 years and I suddenly find out I have all of these “siblings” that my father never told me about. My father’s girlfriend had another child, despite not being married to my father and now they (my mother, my father and his girlfriend) want me to be close to this child I don’t even know. The news that my father’s girlfriend had another child was more than enough for me to handle, now all of a sudden I am expected to care about this child born out of wedlock.
Even though the mother of that child is nice to me, I hardly even know the woman and I am not in the slightest bit interested in getting to know the child. While she (the child) might be related to me through my father, just the fact that I am expected to suddenly be a big brother figure to someone I don’t even know who lives several miles away from me seems ridiculous. I don’t have any hostile feelings toward this child or her mother, but I am just not interested in getting to know her. In fact, I don’t even KNOW if my father is the father of that child because she (mother) never told me. All she said is that the child is my “sister”. Well, she also calls her other children who are not related to me AT ALL my siblings so what am I supposed to think?
Am I being insensitive?