After I left my husband who had Narcissistic Personality Disorder, my sister moved in with him. (The relationship was strictly platonic, she shopped and cooked for him.) I tried to talk to my sister because I was hurt, but she wouldn’t return my calls. My mother said I had no right to feel hurt. I prayed for my sister, and I still pray for her, but she has turned my family against me. I was not invited to Thanksgiving dinner this year, but my former husband was. My daughter says I’m being overly sensitive. My mother pretends that there isn’t going to be a family gathering this year, but my daughter heard my brother invite her father. I have another sister who has been ostracized by the family so I asked her if I could have Thanksgiving with her. (I just didn’t want to spend Thanksgiving alone.) She understood and told me to come to her house. (She is not invited to family gatherings either.)
My former husband told my family that I didn’t want to be married anymore, but he and I are still good friends.
I tried to tell my family that he and I are not good friends. I left him because he has been verbally abusive and asking me to leave him for the last 12 years. He didn’t want to be married anymore. He said he didn’t want any responsibilities. I took the car, the beds and our children. (He was not interested in the youngest and the other will be 17 in two weeks.)
I explained some of the stuff that had been going on to my family, but my sister, who has been living at the house with my former husband, has told everyone that I am a liar. I think I am going to end up being officially ostracized from the family like my other sister.
I am a quiet, soft spoken person. I usually keep my opinions to myself, no matter how much I want to say something. I don’t gossip and try not to criticize people. I go to mass three times a week, but I’m still hurt. I pray for my family. I offer my hurt feelings for the souls in purgatory. I’m trying not to be overly sensitive. I know I shouldn’t let these things bother me. I have asked God to help me forgive and forget, but I’m having trouble getting over it. I don’t want anyone to be hateful to my former husband, because it’s not his fault that he’s not capable of loving anyone. However, I still feel hurt that he is invited, and I’m not.
My former husband is vivacious and funny. He is very charismatic and draws people to him like metal to a magnet. He’s extremely talented and very nice looking.
Please forgive me for having this little pity party for myself, but I really do want to get over this. I guess I’m just too sensitive.